How to Eliminate Your Kids’ Halloween Fears

Tim Shurr, MA shares 3 tips for how to help your child triumph over their fears this Halloween.


  1. Validate their fear instead of minimizing it. Rather than, “It’s just a mask” be compassionate and say, “Yes, that does look scary even though its just made of plastic. Children often do not possess the mental capacity to understand all the scary images they see.


  1. Get a superhero or princess costume that gives “special powers.” Your child’s wonderful imagination is one of the reasons for being afraid. We tend to make things even scarier than they really are. Suggest to your child that when s/he wears the costume, they will immediately feel more brave. You, as the main role model in their life, can also act out sending freeze rays, casting magic spells, or surrounding yourself in a protective light. When your child sees you feeling confident, taking charge, and acting brave, they will often follow suit!


  1. Make the images seem less spooky. Ask your child how to make the thing that frightens them more silly. My 7 yr old suggested putting big mustaches on everything. My 10 yr old doesn’t like spiders. He said, “I imagine putting them on a rocket and sending them into the sun. It makes me feel better, but I still don’t like them.”


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